hirado.hu spoke with Alexandra Pintácsi, aka Szandi, a member of the A Dal 2024 jury , about the week of marriage, and we took a look at it. She talked about the invisible thread between her and her husband, a love confession she kept for 32 years on a napkin, but we also learned who fixes things in the house when they break and what they do on their wedding anniversary.

– Why and how did you fall in love with your husband, and what keeps you together even after 32 years?

- I was sixteen years old when my husband Csabi (Csaba Bogdán - ed.) and I met. We were preparing for my 1992 summer tour, on which Csabi - a founding member of Első Emelet - accompanied me on guitar.

When I first entered the rehearsal room and saw her, from then on we were connected by an invisible thread. It wasn't love, it was much more, some inexplicable bond that has kept us together ever since.

We had in common the humility towards the profession and our world view. I was attracted by his talent, his precision, and was extremely impressed by his intelligence, as well as his faith in God.

- How did you find God?

– I was twelve years old when I was baptized of my own free will in a family where I was never told about God. I had a great childhood in a big, temperamental, Italian family, but we didn't talk about the birth of Jesus at Christmas, nor about his resurrection at Easter.

I believe that God found me, and it is no coincidence that he guided Csabi to me.

By the way, he was raised in the faith by his parents, and then he went to high school with the Piarists. From the first moment we met, we talked a lot about religious issues. In my opinion, faith is a good thing in life because it provides a point of alignment, a set of values, which a person involuntarily has as a guiding principle.

– Is there a memorable story from their life that they will never forget?

– Our relationship had a difficult start because my father forbade us from each other due to the 16-year age difference. During the '92 summer tour, we were in the Highlands, when one evening, after the concert, the whole group ended up in a restaurant. I remember that we secretly corresponded on a napkin, on which Csabi confessed his love to me. I keep that particular napkin to this day, I put it away as a memory. And that evening, in the hotel where the band stayed, on the first floor, style-wise, we had our first kiss.

"Did this prohibition on your father's part subside later?"

– He refused to talk to Csabi for years, and the ice was broken much later. We had been together for five years before he finally accepted the situation, giving us two years of peace. Unfortunately, he closed his eyes forever a month after our wedding, but he still accompanied me to the altar. What he said then was one of the most touching moments of my life: "I'm glad I wasn't wrong!" – and hugged us.

"The age difference never caused a problem?"

- During the 32 years, we got along perfectly. He remained young, and I became a woman, a wife and a mother by his side.

– Do classical male-female roles dominate in your marriage?

"Yes, I can rely on him for everything."

When we encounter any difficulties, humor is the priority in our family. Good humor helps us through everything. We are able to laugh even in the most difficult situations.

By the way, Csabi is a very practical person, if anything breaks, he fixes it.

– As a mother of three children, how is it possible to maintain a balance between family and career?

– All parents struggle with this problem, but I think that when we become mothers, we do not cease to exist as individuals. It is very important for me to be able to fulfill myself professionally and to be able to stand up in all areas. Because if I am successful, I can be much more enthusiastic and happy as a mother.

- The motto of the Week of Marriage this year is that it is in constant renewal. But how do we renew ourselves?

– If any problems arise in a relationship, you have to go back to the times when we got to know each other. To think about why we fell in love. To remember what it was like when we were very much in love. Then find out what made this change.

Nowadays, young people invest a lot of energy in the wedding itself, in the appearance, the dress, the decoration, the venue. Unless they put ten times as much energy into their marriage, maybe there wouldn't be so many divorces.

– Why does their relationship work so harmoniously, what is the recipe?

- I believe in the power of communication, both in relationships and in the parent-child relationship. I believe that everything can be discussed with the other person. The problem with most marriages is that people forget to talk to each other.

We never go to sleep and postpone the problem to the next day. I think that in a relationship we should forget selfishness and egoism and love each other, even more than ourselves.

The full interview HERE .

Photo: Alexandra Pintácsi