He locked her in a room, walked around the house with a knife, pushed her against the door, dumped trash cans in front of her car, sat in the back seat of the car she wanted to drive away, took her bag, made humiliating comments... All this for 16 years.
Judit Varga spoke on Péter Hajdú's Frizbi show. The former Minister of Justice went public after her ex-husband Péter Magyar went public with a recording of their private conversation and filed a complaint with the prosecutor's office. According to Judit Varga, Péter Magyar terrorized her for years.
"I don't wish anyone to be in a situation where their spouse is constantly blackmailing them with an audio recording. The situation is terribly humiliating for me, I didn't want to expose the horrors of my private life to the public," said Judit Varga.
According to Judit Varga, her 16 years of mental abuse started with just a few words.
At first it was charming, just like now on stage, said Judit Varga, who recalled: the first shock came when their first child was born.
"The most painful was when the first child was born, we took the baby home from the hospital and I was very happy. What is he in great happiness: Can't you put together a meaningful grammatical sentence? And while I was breastfeeding, I also started to cry due to the hormones," said Judit Varga, according to whom Péter Magyar reacted to all of this as follows:
"Just cry and your milk will go away!"
"I became more and more withdrawn, I cried more. He noticed this, brought flowers and complimented her. Then he stopped and the game started. When I spoke to my mother on the phone, she asked: What do you need to talk to that moronic mother of yours?" - said Judit Varga, who also revealed that she already wanted to divorce Magyar in 2013.
"There was a surreal family event that he refused to attend. After that, Péter begged us to sort out the relationship, to go to couples therapy," she recalled.
According to the former minister, Péter Magyar was given his positions because he was in a position.
In the later part of the conversation, she also talked about how over the years their quarrels became more and more rough, it happened that Péter Magyar locked her in a room, from which one of their children freed her.
Judit Varga also recalled: it happened that Péter Magyar walked around the house with a knife in his hand, on another occasion, when she was pregnant, he pushed her against a door.
"He had a very good eye for looking at tough people," emphasized Judit Varga. He added: Magyar always felt that he had the right to be in public life because of his family. It didn't bother him that he would achieve the same thing with other humility, work, and perseverance.
"As he got older, his self-image became distorted," added the former minister. She also talked about the fact that she did not want to take the children precisely because of his narcissism.
"A lot of cruelty had to happen for me to realize: this is not a good marriage," Judit Varga summed up the last few years, who also stated that neither the government nor Fidesz gave any instructions on how to manage her private life .
Judit Varga emphasized that the situation is terribly humiliating for her, because she considers herself a serious person, a lawyer, speaks languages, she is proud of the fact that she was able to represent Hungary in discussions in Brussels, she always tried to stay away from the tabloids, she did not want to show her private life, her "personal hell" for the people.
He emphasized: he undertook the interview to protect his family's sense of fairness and justice.
The former Minister of Justice recalled that he met Péter Magyar as a charming, attractive-looking, intelligent man with engaging speech, who made a great impression on him.
She added that she now considers his impudence, which seemed like a little boy at the time, to be very harsh mockery, evil, bad-faith comments, because she realized that she only saw her ex-husband gloating, not laughing kindly and with joy.
If a person comes from an empathetic, loving environment, like me, it is not certain that he will discover from these signs that behind the spectacular elements, such as beautifully handwritten love letters and big plans, there is soullessness, a complete lack of empathy and manipulation, he noted. yes.
Judit Varga also spoke about the fact that Péter Magyar used insulting terms towards his mother and friends, and mocked his human relationships. As an example, she gave when she was preparing for a class reunion, her ex-husband asked, "why do you have to meet these proles?"
"These types of public discussions can help a lot for those who live in a similar relationship as Judit Varga lived in," said Péter Hajdú to Index after the interview.
The presenter was very shocked by what he heard from Judit Varga, as she is against all violence, but at the same time he noted that in this intense political situation, people are naturally skeptical.
"During this more than an hour and a half, I was able to take a look at what the other party said, and I think that Judit Varga is in a terrible situation. I am very sorry that he still has to prove his truth in such a situation, and I am also sorry that the private life of the former justice minister has become a soap opera," he said.
When asked what was the most difficult moment in the conversation, Péter Hajdú answered that it was not, it was a very deep and honest interview, and he apologized for the indiscretion at the beginning of it, but at the same time, according to him, there is no other way to talk about it.
"Since everyone is shouting that this is Rogán's propaganda, that Judit Varga stood up and told what happened to her, we had to go into the smallest details. Obviously, it was unpleasant for me and for him too, but the viewers should know exactly what happened," remarked Péter Hajdú.
According to the reporter, this type of public conversation can be very helpful for those who live in a similar relationship as Judit Varga. Furthermore, they can also show the way to outsiders, as there are certain situations when the relatives who want to help do not know what the right step is, what to do, and therefore this problem must be raised as a topic of conversation.
Péter Hajdú noted that the most important message of their conversation was that you cannot live in an abusive relationship.
“You have to listen to the first sign and get out of this relationship. Initiate close friends and parents, whomever you can, into this problem, and step into what one is very afraid of," he said.
Regarding Péter Magyar Hajdú, he said that he does not know him, but he clearly sees his statements, but at the same time he does not want to form an opinion on his future political career. He also noted that if Péter Magyar is really an abuser, then it is an incredibly big crime, and he must take responsibility for it.
